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jonathan from queer eye turning up in skirts and jumpsuits and off the shoulder tops and french braids in front of crusty old straight american men…braver than any us marine
This poor dude is waiting for his date for the prom unknowing he is being watched by the crew of a hit TV show
The tides coming in, hurry up dude.
Tide got him but he’s ok.
He’s texting his girl but she’s not showing up. Is she standing him up?
His best bud just showed up to help him.
Tide is really coming in now, he’s on the phone. Things are getting frantic.
Will she arrive in time? We’re gonna give him a round of applause if she says yes and arrives.
OH NO!
CREW IS ENCOURAGING HIM TO RE-DO HIS WORK. WE’RE SHOUTING “DO IT!”
HE IS RE-MAKING THE MESSAGE! I REPEAT! HE IS REMAKING THE MESSAGE!
WE HAVE RECIEVED WORD THAT THE GIRL IS ON A TREASURE HUNT IN THE CITY
AND THIS IS THE FINAL LOCATION. HIS FRIEND IS STALLING FOR TIME.
UPDATE: BEACHGOERS HAVE JOINED IN TO HELP THIS BOY REBUILD HIS MESSAGE TO THE GIRL! HIS FRIEND HAS JOINED IN AS WELL.
IT’S ALMOST DONE! THEY MIGHT MAKE IT!
THE MESSAGE IS COMPLETED! THE QUESTION IS NOW “WILL SHE SAY YES?”
BRO OF THE YEAR JUST BROUGHT A GIRL. I THINK THIS MAY BE IT!
I THINK THIS IS IT!
SHE’S APPROACHING!
YES! THE ANSWER IS YES!
OUR CREW IS CHEERING FOR THESE TWO.
A recently published study by John Pachankis and Mark Hatzenbuehler has substantiated what’s called the “Best Little Girl in the World” hypothesis, first put forward in 1973 in a book by Andrew Tobias, then writing under a pseudonym. It’s the idea that young, closeted women deflect attention from their sexuality by investing in recognized markers of success: good grades, athletic achievement, elite employment and so on. Overcompensating in competitive arenas affords these women a sense of self-worth that their concealment diminishes.
…Deriving self-worth from achievement-related domains, like Ivy League admissions, is a common strategy among closeted women seeking to maintain self-esteem while hiding their stigma. The strategy is an effort to compensate for romantic isolation and countless suppressed enthusiasms. And it requires time-consuming study and practice, which conveniently provide an excuse for not dating.
Best of all, it distracts: “What love life? Look at my report card!”
…But the study does show that the longer a young woman conceals her sexual orientation, the more heavily she invests in external measures of success, potentially leading to undue stress and social isolation
Another of the study’s findings is that girls who grow up in more stigmatizing environments are more likely to seek self-worth through competition. I spent my first 18 years in a rural, religious town in North Carolina, a state that recently passed a constitutional amendment barring same-sex unions by a wide margin. Now here I am, a metal detector scanning for golden prizes. That’s no coincidence, the research suggests.
whats cooler than being cool?
financial stability
Alright, Alright, Alright !!!!
